Hi dolls! For my Moms and Babies blog this week I wanted to talk about something that is a little controversial… having Mason sleep in my bed with me. Some say it’s not the best idea for the baby, but to be honest, much like breast feeding, I find it to be an amazing bonding experience for mother and son and I wouldn’t have it any other way. Read more about Mason’s sleeping habits below and be sure to check out last week’s blog about breast feeding little Mase.
When Mason first came home from the hospital, he slept in a bassinet right next to my bed. I remember those early days when he was often up all night and asleep all day. Scott and I would take turns staying up with him, singing to him, rocking him, doing anything and everything to get the little angel to sleep.
I was told that Mason would eventually switch around on his own — so he’d be awake during the day and sleeping at night — which he finally did.
When I was pregnant, a few of my friends told me that their babies slept in bed with them. I remember thinking how crazy that was. Then I started reading up on it and decided it was something I actually wanted to try.
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I know that having Mason sleep in my bed might be a controversial topic. But I have to be honest: I just love that time. I especially love how when you sleep with your baby, you breathe together on the same pattern. I’ve been able to bond with Mason so much more. Even if I’ve had a busy day, I always look forward to every night and us spending time together when we sleep.
Mason still sleeps in the bed right now. We take all the pillows off the bed to make it as safe as we can. I try to have him take naps in his crib if we’re home. When we’re on the go, he naps in his car seat and he loves that.
I really have mixed feelings about the whole topic. Some people say co-sleeping for the first two years is good, but now people are telling me the longer he sleeps in the bed with us, the harder it will be to get him to sleep on his own down the line. Of course, ultimately I want what is best for Mason, so I’m really battling with it right now.
Do you allow your baby in bed or keep your little one in a crib? Tell me your thoughts!
My son is now 4 yrs old. He slept in our bed for almost the first yr. Then we moved his crib next to the bed. This gave me peace of mind that he was sleeping well, made my night feeding easier (breast feeding) and he was comforted knowing I was close by. I would recommend a co-sleeper. A small crib designed to fit next to the bed. Mason will be at an arms reach but he will be save from being rolled on in the night. I’d have him fall asleep in your bed first and then move him to the co-sleeper, just so its a smooth transition. Eventually you’ll be able to move him into a crib and then even into his own room. Regardless of when this will happen, it won’t be easy. Change is always hard. Good luck with your decision but I’m sure you’re a wonderful mother so go with your cut instant. =)
hey kortney you son is cute!… im 16 and i had a baby but she passed away and me and her father are very sad… you are very lucky to have a haelthy baby… i look up to u as a mother ur a very good mother…
I have a 17 month old little girl, and she has slept in her baby bed in her own room since she was 6 weeks old. As a child, I never slept with my parents, and so to me, it just didn’t seem natural. I know a lot of people who sleep with their children, but it just wasn’t for me and my husband. Our babygirl goes to bed every night around 8-8:30 and that gives us time to spend together, or apart doing whatever it is that we don’t get to do that day. It recharges us and allows us to really give ourselves to her when she is awake. She loves her bed, loves her room, and tells me when she’s tired (ni-nite) and even will sit and play in her bed for 30 minutes or so after her nap or in the morning. It gives her her alone time as well. I think we worry as mothers (and fathers) that our children need us ALL the time…but in all actuality, as long as they are in a SAFE environment….they get to have their alone time and play and talk or even think without a distraction. It’s amazing to see how independant, yet incredibly lovable our little girl is. I personally believe a lot of that confidence stems from her being alone sometimes and realizing that she is still alright!!
hi, my son is 2 and ever since i brought him home from the hospital he has always slept in my bed. i am a single 20 year old parent so for me its about comfort and knowing he is there. my son,Jacob has his own bedroom which is decorated beautifully with everything Toy Story you can find but he prefers to be cuddled up to Mummy than sleep on his own and i dont blame him. i dont think it does any harm and i dont know anyone who has the close bond with their child like i do with mine. keep doing it as long as you feel appropriate :)
hey Kourtney! I just had a delivery like yours on June 4th.. my son was born.. as far as co-sleeping.. I’m doing the same thing & I’m breastfeeding.. check out this site-
http://www.thebabybond.com/sleepingandSIDS.html
it made me feel better after reading it
Hey Kourtney,
It’s really up to you! You should do whatever makes you and your baby comfortable and just go with it. But here are some real examples from my family!
My little brother will be 5 in september and he is STILL sleeping with my mom and stepdad! My mother had me and my sister and swore she was done having kids. Me and my sister are now 19 and 24 years old she started very young at age 16. But somehow wasn’t quite done having babies because along came my little brother! So as you could imagine she was like a first time mom all over again! So anyways the baby was born and they had him sleeping in the bassinet right next to the bed. But he got sick at like 2-3 weeks old. He had a little fever and what not so my mom rushed him to the hospital and they wanted a urine sample and decided to insert a catheter and the woman who was doing it which we later find out was just an intern! Ends up slicing his little penis (he was not circumcised, and of course as a newborn who also did not feel too good, kept fussing and moving so she accidentally ripped his foreskin a bit) So my poor baby brother was in SOOOOO much pain. They sent her home with antibiotics for his fever and some anestheic cream to put on his penis to numb the pain! That is when my mother put him to sleep with them because not only did she feel terrible for her baby but he would wake up screaming because of the pain so she was constantly applying the cream to numb the pain. So he continued to sleep with them for a few weeks till it heeled and continued.. and continued.. and he’s now going to be 5 years old and he LOVES sleeping with his parents, He wouldn’t have it any other way! Although I must say, the other day at the store he saw a toddler bed and said he would like to have one to put right next to mommy and daddys bed. (LOL) At least he’s getting somewhere!! =D
Same thing with my sister and her daughter! While pregnant she was like I’m never putting my daughter to sleep with me because he’s going to turn out like our little brother! I would tell her.. YEA RIGHT! Wait until your little baby comes and your going to love cuddling with her throughout the night, just wait and see! And my niece slept with my sister all the way until she was a year old! That’s when my sister was like alright let’s build that crib of hers which has been sitting in the garage for a year and see if she’ll sleep in it! And guess what? It was a smooth transition for her! There she is sleeping in her crib!
So it all depends on the child I guess!
GOOD LUCK!
XOXOXO
I work for a child protection agency… if you co sleep you risk SIDS.. when you weigh the benefits with the risks. which is potentially death in some situations.. its just not worth it.
HEY THERE GIRL!! I’LL TELL YOU IT’S SO NICE TO HEAR YOUR DILEMA AND THE DIFFERENT RESPONSES YOU HAVE RECEIVED. I AM A MOTHER OF TWO, A 7-YEAR OLD GIRL AND A 9-MONTH OLD BOY (WHO WAS A WHOOPS!! BUT A GREAT WHOOPS!) ANYWAY, WHEN MY DAUGHTER WAS BORN I DID EVERYTHING “RIGHT” AS FAR AS SLEEPING ARRANGEMENTS. I WAS ONE OF THOSE WHO CLAIMED “SHE WILL NEVER SLEEP IN OUR BED UNLESS IT IS A TREAT”. WELL WASN’T I WRONG. IT ALL STARTED WHEN WE HAD GONE CAMPING IN OUR MOTOR HOME. WE HAD NO CHOICE BUT TO HAVE HER IN BED WITH US. IT WAS ONLY FOR 3 NIGHTS BUT IT NOW HAS LASTED ABOUT 4 YEARS. ONCE WE GOT HOME, SHE KEPT WANTING TO SLEEP IN THE “BIG HOME” (AS SHE CALLED IT) SO FOR A FEW NIGHTS EITHER MYSELF OR MY HUSBAND WOULD SLEEP OUT THERE WITH HER. THAT GREW OLD REAL QUICK. SO WE TOLD HER IF WE STAY INSIDE THE HOUSE SHE CAN SLEEP IN THE “BIG BED” SHE AGREED. I WILL ADMIT I TRULY ENJOYED THE CLOSENESS OF HER NEXT TO ME. I SEEMED TO SLEEP MORE SOUNDLY. AFTER A FEW NIGHTS I PUT HER BACK IN HER BED. SHE DID FINE, IT WAS ME THAT DIDN’T. I MISSED HER WARM LITTLE BODY NEXT TO ME AND I BARELY SLEPT THAT NIGHT. SO THE NEXT NIGHT I LET HER SLEEP IN OUR BED AND WOULDN’T YA KNOW I SLEPT LIKE A CHAMPION!! SO WE CONTINUED TO HAVE HER IN OUR BED. AFTER SEVERAL MONTHS, EVERYONE WAS ON MY BUTT TO GET HER BACK IN HER OWN BED. I KEPT SAYING SHE WILL GO BACK DON’T WORRY. WELL 4 YEARS LATER SHE’S STILL THERE!! NOW THAT MY SON IS HERE,I DID LET HIM SLEEP IN BED WITH ME FROM DAY 1. FUNNY THING IS THAT ME AND HIM ARE IN MY DAUGHTER’S BED.(IT IS A FULL SIZE) I ALLOWED THIS TO CONTINUE FOR FIRST 3-4 MONTHS THAT IS WHEN I DID PUT HIM IN HIS CRIB. I STARTED THE TRANSITION SLOWLY BEGINNING WITH NAPS AND BUILT UP TO BEDTIME. YOU KNOW WHAT’S FUNNY, IS THAT HE ACTUALLY LOVES HIS CRIB AND HE SEEMS TO SLEEP BETTER!! HE GOES TO BED ANYWHERE FROM 6-7 PM AND SLEEPS ANYWHERE FROM 4-6 AM THAT IS WHEN I DO BRING HIM IN BED WITH ME (AS I AM IN DAUGHTERS ROOM CAUSE HUSBAND SNORES WAY TOO LOUD ANYMORE) WHEN I GET HIM IN MIDDLE OF NIGHT I LAY HIM NEXT TO ME AND GIVE HIM A BOTTLE AND WE BOTH FALL BACK ASLEEP. SO I GUESS ITS THE BEST OF BOTH WORLDS WITH HIM. MY ADVICE FOR YOU IS IF YOU HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH MASON IN BED WITH YOU THEN SO BE IT. IF YOU DON’T THEN WHY SHOULD ANYONE ELSE? IT IS NOT THERE BED HE IS IN. SO GO FOR IT!! ONE MORE THING TO THINK ABOUT ALSO IS THAT THEY ARE ONLY THIS SMALL FOR A SHORT PERIOD OF TIME SO ENJOY EVERY MOMENT OF IT AND DO WHAT YOUR INSTINCTS TELL YOU TO DO!! GOOD LUCK AND GOOD-NIGHT!!
SLEEP TIGHT,
LYNN
Hope he’s circumsized. Wouldn’t want the little guy to be made fun of when he’s older. Kid’s are cruel these days!
Actually, Matt, in 2009 less than 33% of baby boys born in the US were circumcised so, if anything, the little boys that ARE circumcised will be the ones getting made fun of…and I’d hate to be the parent that has to explain to their child that they look different “down there” because I decided to have part of their penis cut off when they were born. Kinda harsh.
I have a baby girl just a few days older than yours. My husband is in the military so I am a single mom (far away from any family) for most of the time. I tried to leave her out of my bed but always end up with her sleeing next to me at some point in the early morning. Sometimes I am just so exhausted its easier than having to get up to go get her when she is hungry. Now that she can roll over the my doctor said pillows are okay. I pushed the bed against the wall and put her on that side of the bed. She actually will wake up and crawl up pull down my shirt and get her own breakfast. I am a very light sleeper and dont roll at all in my sleep. I have greatly enjoyed the time with her.
If I lay down to take a nap with her she goes right next to me as well.
THe only problem I seem to have is that she does not like her crib and most of the time will wake up yelling when I lay her down in it.
Also, my little girl loves her Sophie too.
My son is now 1.5 years old. I was breastfeeding him until he was one year old, we were together in bed breastfeeding, sleeping and when i woke up in the morning i was fresh and i should be because i have an other little girl 4 years old that she needs to see her mommy happy and relaxed ready to play. At night i had the time to be with my son more in bed, watch him sleep,relaxed.
I think he enjoyed it as much as i did.
Now he sleeps in his bed, with his bottle milk, he is very independent, and it was very easy for him, he didn t cry at all, things happened slowly.
my daughter is 2 and a half and she has slept n my bed since he was born and i’m fixing to have another baby in sept. so trying to get her used to sleeping in her bed and it is definately a hard thing to break
MY SON KRISTOFER IS 4 NOW AND WHEN HE WAS BORN I WAS STILL LEAVING WITH MY PARENTS HE HAD HIS CRIB IN MY ROOM AND ALL AND HE WAS SUCH A GOOD BABY HE SLEPT ALL NIGHT BUT I WOULD END UP WAKING UP EVERY 2MIN. TO CHECK UP ON HIM.. IF HE WAS BREATHING?, IF HE WAS COLD? ANYHOW.. I ENDED UP PUTTING HIM IN BED WITH ME ONE NIGHT AND THAT WAS IT.. HE NEVER WENT BACK TO THE CRIB. AND HE WAS ONLY LIKE NOT EVEN A MONTH 1/2 … SO I STAYED AT MOMS FOR LIKE 2YRS SO AS I MOVED TO AN APARTMENT AND SET UP HIS ROOM WITH HIS CARS BED AND EVERYTHING WAS SOO NICE AND BEAUTIFUL FOR HIM.. HE ENDED UP SLEEPING WITH MOMMY:) MY HUSBAND WORKS OUT OF STATE SO MOST OF THE TIME IM ALONE WITH MY BABYS AND IM A STAY AT HOME MOM.. SO NOW I HAVE A 7MO.OLD BABY GIRL KAMILA AND AS I LEARNED THAT IS NOT A VERY GOOD IDEA FOR THEM TO SLEEP WITH YOU, BECAUSE EVENTUALLY AS THEY GET OLDER THEY REALLY GET USE TO U.. SOO KAMILA IS NOW USING KRISTOFER’S CRIB BUT I MUST SAY I PUT HER IN BED SOMETIMES WITH US.. I SLEEP IN THE MIDDLE OF THE BED SO I CAN BE WITH BOTH OF THEM.. BUT NOW THAT KAMILA IS MOVING MORE AND TURNING I RATHER JUST PUT HER ON HER CRIB. I FEEL MORE SAFE:) I STILL CHECK ON HER EVERY NOW AND THEN.. BUT I WILL RECOMMEND YOU START PUTTING MASON ON A CRIB. I KNOW ITS HARD COZ UR NEVER HOME AND ALWAYS TRAVELING BUT TRY AT LEAST PUTTING HIM IN WHEN UR HOME SO HE CAN GET TO KNOW THE CRIB BETTER… GOOD LUCK:) U & UR BABY WILL ALWAYS BOND NO MATTER WHAT..
hey kourt, youre so cute and so is your lil mason. my son is 7 months old. for the first week we tried to get him to sleep in his bassinet but he ended up coming to bed with me and my hubby. i love the time we spend sleeping together. i still breastfeed in the middle of the night, so it makes that easy for me. sometimes i wake up in the middle of the night and kiss his head. people keep telling me its bad and it will make it harder for move him to his own bed the older it gets. its so sweet to see them wake up in the morn next to you. otherwise we wouldnt see how cute they are when the wake up. keep doing what your doing. every mom and baby are different and you now whats best for your son.love.
Bottom LINE. Sleeping with your baby will give you that bond that both of you and the baby need, bcs i know that sleeping with your baby is like sleeping with an angel or at least thats how it feels like :)
But is always good to not get your baby get used to sleeping with you and your huspand bcs then the baby is going to get used to be the only one who gets your attention. My METHOD is to some days let the baby sleep in his crib/ bed and some days with you, so he has a little bit of both worlds meaning the bonding with you and his time for himself, i call it Self learn or teach them in a young age to be independent. oh and the longest i let my girls sleep with me was until they were 1 yrs. old, more than that is going to give you trouble in sleeping time. or at least when they undestand that someday is ok to sleep with mommy and somedays it’s not ok.
I don’t see any harm in co-sleeping as long as you make sure it’s a save place for the baby to sleep. I dont agree with the comment about SIDS as SIDS is something that still is very unclear why it happens. as said before as long as it’s in a save environment, co sleeping should be fine.
My babies both have slept in our room in the first 6 months and in our bed if they wanted too. I always put them up in their own bed at 7pm, but if during the night they wake up and want to sleep in our bed, they’re more then welcome, but I cant have both of them in the bed with us, cos that’s too much fun and no sleep for me haha
Both babies slept through the night from week 4 and both babies decided on their own that they dont need to sleep in our bed anymore. As said in my other post regarding the pacifiers, babies do know what’s good for them and know when they’re ready to move on to the next step. Both my babies sleep from 7pm to 7am now without any problems.
!!!!!!warning!!!! in this picture your sons life is at risk, the harness retainer has to be at arm pit level to restrain the child back at the time of a crash or sudden break. You can find a child passenger safety technician at safekids.org his life is to precious to put him at risk.
Hey Kourtney, i LOVE your pogramm on the tv and ofcourse i am reading your blogs every single day.
I’m a teenmom, i’m almost 17 and have an 9 month old baby boy, named Jayden. He has been sleeping in my bed since he came home, just like youre little man. But he sleeps in his own bed when he has his nappy time. He knows that so he doesn’t cry. I tried once to let him sleep in his own bed at night, but he woke up crying so i took him in my own bed again. I also think it’s an amazing experience to sleep with your baby and wake up with your baby. I am planning to do this until Jayden turns 1, then he will be old enough to sleep in his own bed (i think)
xox Lauren.
@KD – cosleeping does not put your child at risk for SIDS. In fact, it does the opposite. Co-sleeping can prevent SIDS because your baby will mimic your breathing pattern when you sleep together, so if you are breathing your baby will most likely not stop breathing. Additionally, if your baby does stop breathing you are right there and will notice very quickly and can do something about it to save your baby – all you need to do is wake your baby up and he will start to breathe again. If he sleeps in a separate room, you will not know until it is too late if something happens.
@Kourtney – when it comes to your baby, go with your mother’s instinct and observe what makes him the happiest and most relaxed. Co-sleeping, breastfeeding, avoiding the cry-it-out method are all good things you can do for your son. Doing what you think is best might be hard, take a lot if time and get you some criticism but if you stay in tune with your baby and follow your instinct – he will grow to be very well-adjusted and easy going. My husband and have done this since my one year old son was born. We are constantly traveling abroad, staying in hotels, etc. and Declan is secure and calm no matter what because he knows we are always there when he needs us.
Congratulations on being a semi-new mom!
I totally get that Kourt! My little T sleeps in his bassinet next to our bed but when he wakes up in the morning about 6 or 7am I just bring him in bed with me because I love that hour of snuggle time. I too heard my friends sleeping with their babies and it sent chills down my back, “that’ll never be me” so I do allow it once in a while because if he’s having a bad night bringing him in bed with us fixes everything, he falls asleep instantly!! I do try to keep it to a minimum but I have to admit it is very soothing to have him next to me! It is a special bonding time just like breastfeeding!
My 19 month old never slept in our bed with us until he was about 6 months, most likely due to a family member telling me a story about how her friend’s son was smothered by his father in the bed. It started with naps and lasted for a couple of months because I read it was important to have them learn to sleep on their own in their crib early so there aren’t problems down the road. The older they are the harder it is, my sister had problems up until her son was 10…..With my youngest which is 7 months, I let him sleep in the bed up until he learned how to sleep through the night (around 6 months). Once he learned that, I put him to sleep in his bed. Every now and again, I will lay him in bed to sneak in some of that awesome bonding time but I do think it’s very important to have them sleep in their own beds. I know of the safety reasons that surround this topic but I personally don’t sleep heavily when they are co-sleeping with me, motherly instinct I guess. Every movement and breath wake me to check they are safe and sound.
I have a 7 month old daughter that sleeps with my husband and me. She used to sleep in her crib 11-12 hours a night, but as soon as we started packing up our old house to move she started refusing to sleep in her crib. We started letting her sleep with us (at 5 1/2 months) until we moved. Now that we are settled in our new house, 6 weeks later, she is still sleeping in our bed. We love her sleeping with us and she loves it too. She loves waking up and seeing us first thing in the morning. I am torn though, I feel like we are the only parents sleeping with our baby. I feel like I should start putting her in her crib again but I dont think I can take the crying or the thought of her in the other room in the crib all by herself.
My 22 month old has slept with me since he was 2 1/2 months old. I beat myself up about it for-well up until recently. But I am now confident in and proud of my decision, my husband supports it as well. I LOVE it. I don’t know if you are still nursing but I nursed until he was 18 mths old. It is the most awesome feeling when he wraps his little arms around my neck during the night. I think that any change is hard for them whether it is at one year or two or three. Who knows, they may be so excited about their own bed it may not be that upsetting for them. (wishful thinking?) It is hard because not everyone agrees but I do think after researching and experiencing it myself it is good for him. Another thing no one else is doing is keeping the car seat in the rear facing position until the maximum weight the car seat allows. I researched this and the fireman who installed our car seat (the one we bought when he turned one) also said to keep it rear facing-everyone thinks I am crazy but I did the research. I find I am doing everything I thought was crazy before having him. Happy parenting!
Hey ~
It’s a great bonding experience no one can deny that, unforunately the longer they have the comfort and security of being together with you & Scott they harder it becomes for him seperate and go into his own bed.
I had my daughter in her bassinet right next to my bed, too for 5 months, my poor daughter couldn’t even rollover whatsoever she had gotten so big.
Then putting her in the crib she looked tiny & lost everytime for the first few weeks.
It’s harder on the mother than the baby, but the longer Mason sleeps in your bed, the harder it becomes for him to seperate from you, & all the more harder for you to seperate from him.
Truly gives them a sense of independence early on, I kept the crib strictly for napping & sleeping, never gave a bottle in the crib no ever, I made sure she had her last bottle before laying day in the crib for the night, it worked too. I also stood by this when she went into her big girls bed, made sure she had her glass of water before tucking her in for the night.
I never had the situationas as she grew older for getting up out of bed for anything water, bathroom etc., When she want into bed she was asleep until the AM.
Bond with Mason all day long, hugs & kisses snuggle. But at night say goodnight~
FYI~ I know right now it seems like it just can’t get any better than it is at that moment with Mason, but believe everyday just gets better & better, kids are a amazing, such a miracle & blessing. They truly are every mothers light in their life forever . Good luck & Enjoy!
Hi Kourtney….it’s great to see that you are enjoying cosleeping with your little boy, isn’t it the best?! It has been the best thing for us as well, makes nursing in the night SO much easier.
As far as what you “hear” from others….NONSENSE!!! don’t listen to people who have A. never been in those shoes, and B. Don’t know anything about your baby like YOU DO. Trust YOUR INSTINCTS and do what is best for YOUR BABY. Not what is best for those people’s babies or for their own peace of mind. We need to block out all the nonsense and listen to common sense and our own instincts and values.
The thing is we are supposed to NURTURE our babies not “teach” them a “LESSON” they aren’t our soldiers, they are babies learning about the world around them. Learning how to feel and give love, compassion, kindness, grace, mercy….why do people thing it’s great to show all that in the day time but not at NIGHT?! WHAT? we should just lock them in their room, leave them in their cribs to cry to teach them what exactly? That sleeping with mom and dad is WRONG? why is there some age limit to that anyway? And to another poster who said it’s not “natural”…um culturally and historically it IS NATURAL…CRIBS/cradles are NOT natural and only came about in recent times for the elite/rich who didn’t want to care for their own babies and used wetnurses and nannies to feed and care for their babies while they did whatever it is that rich people did in those times. For the rest of the world, they usually had one family bed and everyone slept there until they left the home. So uh, yeah it IS NATURAL.
Again though, don’t listen to me, read, research, do what YOUR baby is TELLING YOU he needs, not what other people say or to teach him some “lesson”. He has many years to learn and what he will learn right now is that mom and dad love him and he knows that you are right there with him…people think those lessons their child is learning is helping them to sleep by themselves is something an infant can understand but infants DO NOT understand that, all that has happened is that they realize their cries will go unanswered and that no one will come calling so they give up. If at some point you decide to put Mason in his own bed because YOU FEEL IT IS RIGHT, then go ahead, so long as it is what is right for him and you, if your husband disagrees then he can sleep in another bed while you and Mason cosleep, but then if the husband is going to disagree on the nurturing of your child, you have more underlying issues at hand to address.
When you are ready for your child to sleep in his own bed you just have to transition him, why is it acceptable to transition a baby and risk your breastfeeding relationship to teach him a lesson now rather than when he is old enough to understand? I don’t understand why everyone thinks the mother and baby needs to be “separated” mothers and babies are MEANT to be WITH each other. ugh, no wonder kids have so many issues these days.
When people say, oh so and so’s kid still sleeps in their bed at XXX age…well let’s think about this, first of all, do those parents have an “issue” with this or is it just the person commenting that has the “issue” if the parents and child are fine with it then it matters to no one…2ndly, if the parent is an aware parent they will do what their child needs and if that is to put them in their own bed in the parents room, or in the child’s room or for the child to continue to cosleep then that is what the parent should do. It isn’t “harder” to get the child out of the bed, it’s just a matter of if the parents and child WANT it. there are GENTLE ways to transition your child at any age, but while breastfeeding it should NEVER have to be an issue at all.
One key to helping transition in the future is to have a routine for bed time from the beginning so that when you do transition them to their own bed the “routine” is pretty much the same, just the sleeping place is different.
Here’s some info for you to consider.
http://thebabybond.com/Cosleeping&SIDSFactSheet.html
http://www.askdrsears.com/html/10/t102200.asp
http://www.drmomma.org/2009/10/cosleeping.html
http://www.hobomama.com/2010/07/nighttime-parenting-and-right-attitude.html
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/650695/how_to_transition_toddlers_from_cosleeping.html?cat=25
Oh and for Matt….here is some information about circumcision…do you KNOW what a foreskin is for? Probably not since yours was likely amputated. Please…educate yourself.
http://circumcisiondecisionmaker.com/
http://www.drmomma.org/2009/09/functions-of-foreskin-purposes-of.html
http://www.intactamerica.org/resources/decision
deaths from circumcision
http://www.drmomma.org/2010/05/death-from-circumcision.html
watch a circumcision and see how it makes you feel.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XmX6RdRNoqk
be fully informed
http://www.drmomma.org/2010/01/are-you-fully-informed.html
My kids slept in my bed when they were babies and toddlers (not every night) and even sometimes when they were pre teens, we moved around a lot and i felt if this is what they needed to feel secure then it was fine. now they are teens they dont anymore, i kinda miss the chats we used to have and the funny things the kids used to talk about, giggling in bed with the kids about silly things so funny. sometimes they just needed to chat about things on there minds. Id definatley do it again i have no regrets what so ever.
im from New Zealand, love the show definatley empowering to other females.
Hi!
What an adorable picture of your baby sleeping in the carseat!
Just wanted to leave a friendly note about carseat safety.
The chest clip which is down at his tummy should be level with his armpits. If you have the manual that came with the seat, it should show an example of where it’s supposed to be. The reason for this is that the clip on the tummy can damage internal organs in a car crash and doesn’t hold the straps properly over the chest as they’re designed to do, meaning your child could be ejected from their seat.
It also looks like the straps could be a little loose.
Straps need to be about as tight as you can get them without hurting the child. The Pinch Test is a great method to determine if the straps are the correct tension.
The reason for this is that loose straps don’t hold the child in his seat properly. The child can be partially ejected, which can damage any part of their body that is caught, or totally ejected and fly into the window, seats, another person or out of the car entirely.
Here is an explanation (with pictures) of the pinch test:
https://www.facebook.com/note.php?note_id=10150184071993102&comments&ref=mf
I’m not sure if you have him rear facing or forward facing but the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration (NHTSA) released a statement that children should be rear-facing for as long as possible. There are a few carseats on the market now that will rear-face up to 45 pounds.
The reason for this is that:
“Babies and toddlers have weak spines that haven’t fused to protect the spinal cord, and they have proportionately huge heads, and when forward-facing, the weight of the large head pulls on the weak spine, and can separate the skull from the spine, possibly severing the spinal cord (internal decapitation), resulting in paralysis or death. Also, the way the body slides when rear-facing helps the car and car seat absorb the maximum amount of centrifugal force so your baby’s body doesn’t have to — children are 75% less likely to die when rear-facing. Everyone is, actually, but it’s just not possible for adults. As far as their legs? Not only would leg breaks be preferable to a broken neck, but forward-facing children are more likely to break their legs than rear-facing children.”
http://dailymomtra.com/2011/03/30/the-picture-guide-to-car-seat-safety/
(This article includes picture examples of common mistakes and information and tips on how to keep your baby as safe as possible)
Have a wonderful day :)
Hey Kourt! I have been breastfeeding my daughter since she was born and now she is 8 months. I’m glad I stuck with it because I am all for it and she loves it. My concern is she only falls asleep on me(sucking the nip nip). She has a crib but when she wakes up in the middle of the night and realizes shea alone, she wakes and wants my breasts. What would your advice be? (btw: she is off the pacifier)
Hey Kourtney. I think it is awesome that you breastfeed and co-sleep with Mason. Also that you are into holistic ways. I am 21 my daughter is 18 months and I am still nursing her and she is still sleeping with me. I also wouldn’t have it any other way and my husband feels the same way. There is one thing i am curious about, how do you feel about circumcision? Just curious. Well i think you are a great mom and cant wait to see more of the Kardashian shows.
I also co-sleep with my 2 year old (who was born 2 weeks before Mason!) and I am also expecting my 2nd child this February. I am hoping you will share what you plan on doing once your new baby comes. Do you plan to sleep with both children in the room with you?
Thank you for being so open and honest with the way you parent! I think you are an amazing mother and a wonderful idol for girls of all ages!
That baby is NOT strapped into his carseat properly, wow. Talk about safe cosleeping and breastfeeding?? STRAP THAT BABY IN!!! The clasp needs to be in line with his armpits!
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my baby is almost 3 weeks old and for breastfeeding and just sleep, i have let baby sleep with me, makes me more secure after feedings i worry about her spitting up, or gagging…even after a good burp and an hour of upright holding, i do like her to sleep next to me, but if i feel im too tired, or like i might roll around, or just feel i need extra room , ill let her sleep in her bassinette.
HELLO!
Starting from birth till the age of 9, I’ve co-slept next my mom. From 10-14, I slept on the floor next to her bed. From 15 and so on, I’ve slept on my own space. Between my brother and I, I have an unimaginable bond between my mother. I’m 28 now, joined the Marines, went to combat. I’m a mama’s boy =) but I make my own decisions, and I’m pretty rebelious. Co-sleeping will benefit you in the long run. The bond develops in those first few years. Even at this age, If I lay next to her, I fall asleep easily, It’s 2nd nature. I still wake up every morning, walk to her bed, and lay next to her, and greet her good morning. =) I only have one mother.